Wednesday, September 26, 2018

"We have all hurt someone tremendously, whether by intent or accident. We have all loved someone tremendously, whether by intent or accident. It is an intrinsic human trait, and a deep responsibility, I think, to be an organ and a blade. But, learning to forgive ourselves and others because we have not chosen wisely is what makes us most human. We make horrible mistakes. It's how we learn. We breathe love. It's how we learn. And it is inevitable." - Nayyirah Waheed

For the past couple years of my life I've dealt with a lot of change and various up and down moments. I tend to put a lot of trust into the people I surround myself with, therefore when someone doesn't do something with good intentions that involve me I tend to get very upset. Like extremely upset. Now as I get older I know that lashing out and being super angry is not the smart route to go. I've learned that people are not always loyal or faithful to you. Even family members can turn against you. That was the biggest thing I dealt with this year. After my dad kicked me out of his house, I wanted nothing to do with him and I still don't.

There is a lot more I could get into about the friendships I've lost this year or with what happened between my dad and I, but I won't because that is not the point.
I've learned through these trials that bad things, as much as they suck, are always going to happen. Yeah, it stinks.
I try to be a positive light on this platform and that is why I haven't been blogging much lately, because my light began to dim and I didn't want that to affect anyone else in a negative way.
But what I've realized in all of this is we can't hold on to the bad moments. Bad things happen. Bad people enter our lives, for a moment or for a while. Bad experiences occur. That is just life. The moment we grasp the idea that life isn't always perfect is the moment, in my opinion, that we deal with these hardships face to face and tell ourselves, "I got this."

Forgive: to stop feeling angry or resentful toward (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake.
The words "angry" and "resentful" honestly stress me out, however the definition as a whole is very relieving. Feeling resentment or hate takes up a lot of energy, at least I know for me it does. I strongly prefer I feel happy or content, than to have emotions of anger coursing through me. So I learned to forgive. I learned that holding onto grudges will only end up upsetting me more. Now I know what you're thinking, "Rachel it is easier said than done!" and I very much agree. Trust me there are things that I still have to wrap my head around and remind myself I forgave certain people and situations, but use that quote to help you. It is easier said than done. Then keep saying it. In my head I tell myself, "I forgave them, there is nothing to be angry about."
You don't have to fully believe yourself right away. Depending on the situation, all matters of forgiveness take time, but I believe if you get yourself in the mindset of forgiving you'll for sure see your mindset change. Your emotions will be filled with positivity rather than negativity, which will allow you to open your eyes and see that the bad things are nothing compared to the great things in life.

If you've gotten to this point in the post, thank you. This is a new thing I'm trying out where I want to focus on a word and/or a quote talk about how it can better our lives when we start to live by it. To forgive has been on my heart for a while now. I know it can be tough to forgive others and even ourselves at times but life goes on either way, we can either live in spite or live in bliss. The choice is ours.
Let me know what you think in the comments below! If you have any ideas for words I should focus on in the future let me know!
I hope you're all having a wonderful day/week/month!

1 comment

  1. I love you, and I love this so much. (I teared up a little I'm not gonna lie)


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